Today’s Autistic Moment: Autistic Adults and Gaslighting

I recently was invited to participate in an interview on a podcast, Today’s Autistic Moment, to talk about Autistic Adults and Gaslighting – a form of manipulation and abuse by which the abuser makes the individual being abused doubt their own reality.

Autistic Adults: Dating, Romantic Relationships and Sexuality Today’s Autistic Moment: A Podcast for Autistic Adults by An Autistic Adult

My guest Leah Bauman-Smith and I have a very frank conversation about dating, romantic relationships and sexuality in this installment, with very sensitive content that may not be appropriate for all audiences.  Listener discretion is advised. There is a myth that all Autistic people are asexual and not interested in dating or having romantic relationships.  The truth is Autistic Adults really do want to have healthy relationships and sex life. Leah Bauman-Smith joins me to talk about how Autistic Adults can have health and safe relationships, and be sexually active in ways that meet their needs.   — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/2daysautistic/support
  1. Autistic Adults: Dating, Romantic Relationships and Sexuality
  2. Achievements of Today’s Autistic Moment
  3. Autistic Adults and Interdependence
  4. Autistic Adults and Gaslighting
  5. Autistic Adults: Media Portrayal or Betrayal.

A Program Script and Interview Transcript for this show can be found on todaysautisticmoment.com/podcast-episodes/ein/.


Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and abuse by which the abuser makes the individual being abused doubt their own reality. Gaslighting occurs by lies and cover ups designed to suggest that the person experiencing the abuse has no understanding of themselves, who they are, what they need and how to manage relationships and their everyday lives.

Autistic Adults experience gaslighting with regards to their sensory processing, questioning whether they are Autistic at all, and spoken to as if they are incompetent at living their lives.

Lyric Holmans, the Neurodivergent Rebel joins Philip to talk about what gaslighting is, and how to self advocate to do some self healing and protect themselves.

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