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Bullying in the #ActuallyAutistic Community

United we are stronger. Divided we fall.


I am greatly disappointed that so many autistic people waste energy fighting and tearing each other down, instead of elevating each other. A little kindness and compassion can go a long way. United we are stronger. Divided we fall.





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  2. Thanks for sharing this. I haven’t seen much of the bullying in the #ActuallyAutistic community because I’ve been offline for most of the past year. I think it’s sometimes hard for people to recognize what’s an invitation to debate and what is simple sharing of personal experience, especially on Twitter when they may miss the original tweet and get lost in the details of a thread. However, even if someone disagrees, as is their right as their own opinion, this doesn’t mean they need to argue over it, especially in the nasty fashion that’s so common currently. People may question, may offer their own opinion but there’s just no excuse for bullying.

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  3. Nicely said, Rebel. I certainly have to learn to restrain my anger, not with my fellow grievers or sufferers of whatever we suffer from, but with a “Goliath” who saw fit to bully people during bereavement. I still have a hard time finding the civilized words and a way you are doing. Appreciate your way, and I am certainly cutting of a slice from your attitude.

    Love this one here: “”we’re missing out on the voices we’ve chased away” and “”your mental health is worth it”

    I’ve chased a lot of people away in my anger out of trauma and am still waiting if I ever get “proper” help as friends pointed out that I behave like someone with PTSD, bipolar and whatever else people “diagnose” me. But it can never be an excuse where I have chased people away as I was in so much pain lashing out with words and emails at people.

    But in general, absolutely right, in my former work that is very very harsh and the bullying mentality is rampant. I was a team leader and when my team started to “eat each other up” for stupid things, I would pause them and explain to them that they are doing really really great in this intensely fast pace and stressful work environment and that the top leadership of the company is putting all this pressure on them/us, and we should have a good go at them up at the top NOT at each other.

    So, with the autistic community, would be worth researching and finding out WHY they are having a go at each other. Who’s stirring it up, is it maybe just a handful of people starting a fuss and the majority just jumps on the bandwagon?

    Thanks for your thoughts, very important and helpful as usual.

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  4. A big part of this problem with lashing out and attacking each other is that we’re all so sick of not being listened to, of being told to STFU and “stay in our lane”, that we get bent out of shape when there’s a stark difference of opinions. We have to remember that we’re all on the same side here, and if we’re going to disagree, we at least have to maintain some degree of alliance.

    What I hate the most about intra-community bullying is when some autistic activists are so goddamned mean and soulless that instead of being open and honest with the other, newer faces you’ve mentioned, they damn near subtweet them to death. That’s happened to me before, and I still can’t bring myself to mention the name of that subtweeter because I know I’ll be ganged up on and bullied/blocked/subtweeted to death for real this time.

    We fight hard enough against homeopathy, ableism, anti-vaxxers, ABA, the Judge Rotten-berg Center, the list goes on… why does the list have to include each other???

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