Do Autistic People Have Sex – The Truth About Autism & Sex

Hey everyone, NeuroRebel here. And this week, we are going to talk about Autistic people and sex. So if you’re interested and want to know more, please stay tuned.

So Autistic people can and do have sex. Okay. That’s it. End The video. We’ll talk to you next time.

Just kidding. I’m not going to let myself off that easily, but there is a misconception out there that Autistic people do not have sex or have urges or any of those things. That are common in a lot of other humans. Although some Autistic people may not experience sexual urges or have sex. A lot of us do because we’re just human.

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Hey everyone, NeuroRebel here. And this week, we are going to talk about Autistic people and sex. So if you’re interested and want to know more, please stay tuned.

[00:00:47] So Autistic people can and do have sex. Okay. That’s it. End The video. We’ll talk to you next time.

[00:00:55] Just kidding. I’m not going to let myself off that easily, but there is a misconception out there that Autistic people do not have sex or have urges or any of those things. That are common in a lot of other humans. Although some Autistic people may not experience sexual urges or have sex. A lot of us do because we’re just human.

[00:01:26] There is this myth that Autistic people just can’t be sexual beings, but that’s definitely not true with me or my partners.

[00:01:38] I asked on Twitter what other Autistic people’s experience with sexuality is, because I’ve found that sex can be a very wonderful sensory experience.

[00:01:49] It was a very interesting conversation. We talked about many things, including the fact that a lot of Autistic people commented and said, “Hey, you know, we’re actually very sexual, and some of us are even in the kink community.”

[00:02:01] I do want to mention that there were a great number of people on the Twitter community that said that they were also Autistic and asexual. So the point is just like with neurotypicals and the rest of humanity, Autistic sexuality ranges the full sexual spectrum.

[00:02:21] A lot of Autistic people on Twitter said that they enjoyed sex is because it is, and I agree with this, a pleasurable sensory activity. A lot of us are sensory seekers and we find pleasure in sex because if you do it right, it can be very pleasurable.

[00:02:42] Also, Autistic people on Twitter who shared that, for them, the sensory aspects of sex are not pleasurable and can even be overwhelming and are off putting.  This also makes sense , because each and every Autistic person has very different sensory needs has a unique sensory profile and different sensory things that they enjoy or must avoid.

[00:03:05] There is no one unified experience of Autistic people and sex but I don’t expect there should be. There’s not any one experience of neurotypical people with sex either. Everyone likes different things, everyone’s into different things and that’s just human nature.

[00:03:23] These are things people don’t want to talk about with regards to Autistic people, and it’s unfortunate because people are often infantilizing us and saying, “Oh no, they’re Autistic. They couldn’t possibly be interested in sex. They couldn’t possibly want to have sex.”  This can be very harmful for a lot of reasons.

[00:03:44] One big reason being that Autistic and neurodivergent young people may not get proper sex education.

[00:03:51] There’s already a lot of statistics on sex education and just assuming abstinence doesn’t necessarily have great outcomes compared to when young people are  properly educated about how to have safe and consensual sex.

[00:04:08] That’s another very serious part of needing to have sex education or have the conversations about sex with your Autistic or neurodivergent children, because assuming they won’t have sex and not having the conversations with them around sex and boundaries and being able to say no.

[00:04:30] We need to have these conversations otherwise we are leaving our youth in a very dangerous position when these situations inevitably come up.

[00:04:42] I hope I did this one justice. I’m not going to talk too long about this one. I just think it’s important to talk about why assuming Autistic people are never going to have any interest in sex  is harmful .

[00:04:58] We need to de-stigmatize and open up and be willing to admit and share on some of these more intimate topics, with boundaries.

[00:05:07] That’s as much as I’m willing to share today, know your own personal limits.  If you don’t feel like making a YouTube video on this topic, I will completely understand.

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2 thoughts on “Do Autistic People Have Sex – The Truth About Autism & Sex

  1. A great and very relevant video in this time of increased awareness about respecting yourself and your own boundaries, as well as that of others.

    It IS important to talk about, and sex education plays a part in this. When I worked at the college where students with learning disabilities and/or ASD were learning to live independently, there was some resistance from parents and caregivers when this was added to the curriculum.

    In their views as you say, there was this preconception that ‘oh they won’t be interested in sex/don’t want to have sex/don’t need to know about sex as it’ll corrupt them, they are too innocent’ and so on.

    In the end the head of the department overrode these arguments and simply stated that while they may not want to have sex, the students need to know about sex, boundaries and consent, as not teaching them about this could leave them vulnerable to being sexually abused/exploited.

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