Calling Trans and other Queer People “groomers” is insulting to actual survivors of real groomers and those who have escaped (or are still stuck in) relationships dependent on coercive control.
As someone who’s the survivor of more than one long-term relationship with people who used coercive and controlling methods to groom and keep me for their benefit (at the expense of my mental and physical health), I am disgusted by how casually the word “groomer” is thrown around today – especially with regards to trans people.
Continue reading What IS Grooming?
I used to, but at this point in my life, I no longer wish I could have discovered I was Autistic sooner. I’m happy I learned the truth when I did (and grateful I was spared from ABA).
Continue reading Do I Wish I Could Have Been Diagnosed Autistic Sooner?
When I’m overwhelmed, excited, or have extra energy flowing through me, I find the predictable rhythm of my voice and familiar sounds to be grounding and relaxing.
Continue reading How do you overcome shame about vocal stimming?
I’d been told to listen to these adults and do what they said, and they had said I was “bad,” and I believed them. Since I thought I was “bad,” I felt I deserved all the punishment (abuse) I received.
Continue reading Abused at School: Why Autistic Kids May Not Speak Up When They’ve Been Harmed by a Teacher
If Autistic People are determined “too vulnerable” to know what’s best for us in one area of our lives, what’s to stop them from applying this logic to other areas?
Continue reading Autistic Trans Adults are the Latest Target of Anti-Trans Legislation (but ALL Autistics are in Danger)
There is a misconception that, because someone’s NeuroDivergence is identified in adulthood, they struggled less growing up than NeuroDivergent People diagnosed as children.
Continue reading Self-Identified Autistics: IS diagnosis a Privilege? Why Some People May Self-Diagnose with Autism
I believe the world is horrible for Autistic People we need to fix the world so Autistic People can be properly included. The world is inaccessible and cruel. Autistic People are NOT the problem. Continue reading The Autism Problem – NonAutistics Treat Autistic People Like we’re Broken NeuroTypicals (but We’re NOT)
“You’re NOT Autistic! Late-onset Autism isn’t a thing!” She said, quickly shutting down any conversations about my late Autism diagnosis. Continue reading Late Autism Diagnosis & Generational Trauma – When Loved Ones Don’t Accept that You ARE Autistic
Many Autistic People have co-occurring health conditions, in addition to Autism. I am no exception. When I became burned out, these conditions flared, leading to my diagnosis at the age of 29.
Continue reading Autistic Burnout Saved My Life & Is HOW I learned that I’m Autistic
Unfortunately, though I was excited to share this new, life-affirming information with others, MOST of the people in my life were NOT as enthusiastic, as my friend had been, when I attempted to share my Autism diagnosis with them. Continue reading Autism, Understanding, Rebirth, Disclosures, Loss, & Love